Does it matter to you? Does it not matter to you? This little or (big) detail often goes overlooked especially sorry to say when men are left to their own devices picking out a ring.
Word to the wise, there are many beautiful rings out there but many of them don't pair well with wedding bands. Cut's like ovals and pears can be especially tricky. Asymmetrical styles, and cluster rings that are trendy right now, also sometimes can't fit with a wedding band.
It's an important question to your ask your jeweler - does a wedding band fit underneath? Many women want low-profile engagement rings but often when you do that you sacrifice being able to fit a wedding ring underneath, or the wedding ring bumps up against the engagement ring creating a gap.
If you are like me you don't mind the gap but for some people, the gap is the bubonic plague. If you absolutely know you want to be able to stack with your engagement ring or wear a larger wedding band it is highly recommended you make sure your engagement ring is a cathedral setting. This setting type essentially raises the diamond off the band so you have room underneath it to stack.
2. Obsessing over weight
I know, I know, in your mind you want that perfect 1 carat round. But heads up - you will pay a premium for that!
1 Carat, 2 Carat, 3 Carat these are called "magic sizes" in the trade because people become fixated on having a diamond that exact size. But often you can pay 5% to 10% more per carat (over even more) to hit that magic number. It's doesn't sound as good but seriously no one can really tell difference between a .92 carat diamond and 1.00 carat and you will pay a much better price per carat.
3. Ignoring the setting
Please don't do this! I hear so many women just say "I want him to put all the money into the biggest center stone he can buy!"
Truth bomb - this is a mistake!
Look if your husband to be, buys you a gorgeous 2 carat VVS1, F Color diamond and he puts it in the basic 14 karat gold setting that cost $650 from Blue Nile...
Well let's use this analogy if you buy a Bentley you aren't driving it around on cheap tires and ugly looking rims right? The wheels need to match the car - so to speak.
That's the problem with an expensive diamond and a cheap setting - it doesn't look good people. Find a good jeweler and spend the few extra grand to give that diamond the G'ed out setting it deserves.
4. Stressing out you are stuck with this ring for life
Listen to me ladies, it's okay to upgrade, revamp, re-configure, re-make, re-do, or just simply buy another ring! Styles change, you change, your needs change and changing your ring has absolutely zero reflection on your love, marriage, or future life together.
My two cents, start planting those seeds early with your husband that at some point down the line you may upgrade your ring.
5. Not getting ring insurance right away
Yes, it's boring but don't let that ring out of our pocket before you purchase engagement ring insurance! Accidents and tragedies do happen and it's important to make sure you are protected if something does go awry.